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There are some things that women should never do while engaged in an online relationship with a man. These things are certain to put a quick and final end to any further communications with him.

You have chosen an online site and you have joined it. Congratulate yourself for taking this important step. You have chosen a picture and written a inviting profile. When you get callers or writers, spare all the gory details of your life when first begin corresponding with them. Be interesting but don’t overload them with your all your life’s up and downs. Please don’t tell them how many times you have been dumped or dumped other guys in your life.

If, for example, you are fortunate to have children (I believe children are truly a blessing), and are asked about them, tell their names and ages and sex. Don’t volunteer that little Johnny is ADHD and wets in the bed every night. Believe me, you will have ample opportunity to discuss more detail of your life, if the guy calls you back again. If any other questions are asked, answer them, and ask the guy the same question, so that he can share himself with you.

Get to know the guy some on the first conversation or email. Ask him about himself. Don’t just talk about yourself. Many people believe another person is “a very interesting person”, when they are allowed to talk about themselves to that person. Be a good listener, especially in the beginning.

Never, ever, EVER lie. I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake.

If you are tempted to tell little “white lies” on your profile, when you do meet someone you enjoy, the chances of developing a relationship, or even a friendship might not happen. Don’t blow any chances you have of developing a meaningful relationship by saying or writing untruths about yourself.

You would not be dating on-line or anywhere else, if you were not interested in meeting someone special. Maybe you have been searching for a while, or maybe you just got of a relationship that made you feel unloved and unattractive. These are no reasons to become “Miss Desperado.” For those of you who don’t know spanish, that mean desperate. You are not desperate so don’t act like it. There is a great guy somewhere for you, but if you are too easy, you might run him away, once you meet him.

It is not necessary to play games with your callers. Be yourself. Don’t give up. I dated on-line for over a year before I met my husband. We have a great family life and have now been married for several years. Keep at it. You will meet you soul mate.

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